‘It does kind of make me the breadwinner’: stay-at-home mom charges husband $2,700 a week for household labor — sparking a debate on TikTok

Why this stay-at-home mom wants a paycheck

The labour stay-at-home parents do has real value — and researchers have actually put a price tag on it.

Beike Biotechnology found that stay-at-home parents of two children do about 200 combined hours of unpaid labour each month.

For Aubrey, charging her spouse for her duties boils down to feeling like she deserves financial recognition for the work she contributes. That's why she bills her husband $2,700 a week for the work she does.

"If he wants to save money, he can help me do any of these tasks," she said.

Here's a breakdown of Aubrey's workload and the amount she charges:

• $20 per load of dishes (two to three times daily, five days a week)
• $140 for weekly laundry
• $120 for weekly bathroom cleaning
• $100 per floor cleaning (two to three times daily, five days a week)
• $800 weekly homeschool instruction for two kids
• $150 for weekly pickups and drop-offs
• $75 per weekly grocery run
• $50 for five weekly lunches and dinners
• $200 for weekly breastfeeding
• $50 weekly for sweeping

Many TikTok viewers were quick to applaud Aubrey for her bold stance.

"Know your worth, then add tax," wrote user K Briggs.

"I 100% support this," added another user named Niklovin. User Sharna Louise also chimed in: "This is the best video I've seen on the internet; ever!"

Aubrey's video even resonated with some male viewers. A TikTok user named gesseppiimuhseppe said, "Listen, as a guy, I'm here for this. I think most [of] these men need to be aware [of] how much their wives do."

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How couples can address “invisible labor”

Invisible labor is something stay-at-home parents take on regularly — and issues can arise when that work goes unacknowledged.

It's not just the physical tasks that matter. There's also the mental load — the planning, scheduling and decision-making that comes with managing a household and raising children.

Of course, not every household follows the traditional gender roles. But data from the University of Wisconsin-Madison finds that women still spend twice as many hours doing physical housework than their male partners.

Weight of the world

It doesn’t stop there. Allison Daminger, an assistant professor of sociology, found in her research that in 80% of opposite-sex couples, women shoulder most of the cognitive labor — things like managing family calendars, planning meals and checking on homework.

In 2019, Statistics Canada estimated the economic value of unpaid household work at $860.2 billion. Plus, there are commodities required to execute such unpaid labour.

That’s why couples need to have open discussions about how to financially support and recognize the stay-at-home role. That doesn’t have to mean every household needs to itemize tasks like Aubrey does.

But working partners should start by acknowledging the value their stay-at-home counterparts bring to the table. There are practical ways to make things more equitable.

For example, the working partner could contribute part to a spousal RRSP to help the non-working partner save for retirement.

They should also consider the opportunity cost of a partner stepping away from their career. Resume gaps can add challenges when trying to re-enter the workforce and often lead to lower pay.

For couples with one stay-at-home parent, open communication is key — and so is gratitude. Even if a weekly paycheck isn’t in the cards, a regular and sincere thank you can really go a long way.

Sources

1. NY Post: Here’s what I charge my husband for stay-at-home-mom services — and some say he’s not paying me enough by Asia Grace (April 3, 2025)

2. Beike Biotechnology: The Value of the Stay at Home Parent 2024

3. TikTok: @amberaudrey_96

4. University Of Wisconsin-Madison: How Invisible Labor Affects Relationships (June 5, 2023)

5. Statistics Canada: Estimating the economic value of unpaid household activities in Canada, 2015 to 2019 (March 2022)